MISS MANNERS by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin ...

GENTLE READER: Knowingly addressing the cards incorrectly is disrespectful towards the recipients. Telling you of her plan to ...

but that she would continue to address their anniversary cards as “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe.” I politely but firmly disagreed, to which she replied that she did not care -- not once, but twice.